Help & Support: A Hospital Patient's POV
When someone we care about is in the hospital, it's natural to want to help and offer support, but most aren't quite sure how. As a result, those struggling with their health are often inundated with well-meaning questions about what they need. Here, we'll discuss the complexities of being a hospital patient and offer ways to provide them with meaningful assistance during this challenging time.
Understanding the Patient's Perspective
Begin by empathizing with the patient's experience and seeking to understand their needs from their perspective. Being in the hospital is often overwhelming both physically and emotionally. In addition, patients often experience a loss of independence and control and feelings of vulnerability. Knowing this allows for a better understanding of how best to support them both in the hospital and during their recovery.
TIP: Gifts that provide physical support can also support patients emotionally by helping them regain some independence and control—and reduce feelings of vulnerability.
Offer Specific Ways to Help
Instead of asking what they need, offer specific ways in which you can assist. This helps alleviate the burden of decision-making for the patient and increases the likelihood of receiving practical support.
TIP: Some ideas include offering to bring them clean clothes or other personal items from home, running errands and helping them manage household tasks.
Be Mindful of Personal Boundaries
Respect their privacy and personal boundaries during their hospital stay. Some patients might feel uncomfortable with certain visitors or discussing their medical condition in detail. Be sensitive to their emotional needs and allow them to dictate the level of information they wish to share.
TIP: Understand that their well-being takes precedence over curiosity or a desire for updates on their condition.
Offer Emotional Support
In addition to practical assistance, emotional support is equally important. Patients in the hospital often experience feelings of anxiety, fear, or loneliness. The key is being there to listen while providing a comforting presence. Engaging in meaningful conversations can make a significant difference to their overall well-being.
TIP: Be positive, express genuine empathy and validate their emotions without trying to provide unsolicited advice or reassurances.
Coordinate Support
Sometimes, patients may receive numerous offers of help, which can become overwhelming. Coordinate with the patient or their family to ensure that support is distributed evenly and efficiently.
TIP: Create a schedule or an online platform where loved ones can sign up for specific tasks or times to visit, ensuring that the patient receives a steady stream of support without feeling overwhelmed by constant attention.
Post-Hospital Support
The need for support doesn't end when the patient is discharged from the hospital. Often, patients may require additional assistance during their recovery at home. Offer to help with meal preparation, house cleaning, or childcare, depending on their specific needs. Check in regularly, send encouraging messages, and offer a listening ear as they navigate the challenges of post-hospital life.
TIP: Continue to coordinate support with friends and family.